An Update from Lea Mishell… (May 6, 2016)
Friday, May 6, 2016
I know, I know. Looooong time since you’ve heard from me but just like all of us, I’ve been going through LIFE. Many changes have happened since I’ve last blogged about ANYTHING so let’s see if I can catch you up considering the last time I blogged was December 2013…😶
OUT OF THE CLOSET
On December 3, 2013, I (partially) came out to my husband as BISEXUAL. Yes folks, I love my Husband AND Women!!! Note: I said I partially came out, meaning that it would be over a year before I admitted to Hubby that although I don’t have a SEXUAL attraction to them nor a desire to date any other men, I find some men attractive as well. Since coming out, I have begun dating but it hasn’t been easy to explain…
POLYAMORY AND AN OPEN MARRIAGE
It would be nearly a year before I proposed the idea of my husband and I entering into an open marriage, allowing each of us to date other women. Hubby was fine with me being the only one dating but I didn’t think that would be fair. Instead, I suggested that we have a polyamorous marriage since we both have the capacity to not only love each other but others as well. I have to be honest. Out first poly year was ROUGH. First I jumped out there looking for my Lady, leaving Hubby in the dust! He thought I was trying to replace him! NOOOOO!! I wanted him AND the lucky lady I would soon meet. Eventually, he stepped back into the dating pool and quickly acquired THREE girlfriends! But by the end of our first full poly year, Hubby and I were poly single and we discussed what we’d learned and apologized for hurting each other with our individual rudeness and disrespect toward each other. In fact, our marriage is STRONGER simply because polyamory “demands” that all involved parties are honest, transparent and respectful of everyone, as it should be in ANY marriage, polyamorous or monogamous.
At this time, I am happy to say I am involved in a long distance relationship (LDR) with a beautiful young lady in NYC. She and I are taking advantage of our distance to truly get to know each other and we have plans to meet soon. She’s almost perfect for me (her ONLY flaw: she’s not HERE with me) and I’m enjoying getting to know her better. In the short time I’ve known her, she’s already been a great friend to turn to. Especially on my roughest days…
On July 25, 2015, my mother passed away. Anyone that knows me knows how close we were. I was her “runaway bunny” and wherever I went, she soon followed. With Mother’s Day coming up, I find myself in turmoil as I won’t be able to celebrate with Mama and things aren’t fully stabilized with my oldest children so I don’t know what the holiday will bring. I just know that I will smile up at Heaven and say “Happy Mother’s Day Mama!” I miss her terribly but just like she would, I try to keep a smile on my face NO MATTER WHAT!!
…AND MY WRITING
Ah, my writing… Weeeeell I’d love to say that I finished SistaGirlz Book #4 but I didn’t. I’ve been writing on it as well as Book #7, Book #8 as well as branching off into erotica. Hell! I had to do something with all these naughty thoughts in this Scorpio brain of mine! 😈I’ve compiled all of my available titles at http://www.leanpub.com/b/TheLeaMishellCollection.
Now that you’re all caught up, I’ll come back and keep y’all posted on my WRITING (a hint to myself to get back to it!!)
If you haven’t already, please be sure to check out my SistaGirlz books on Leanpub.
Til next time.
For more information about polyamory, visit http://www.morethantwo.com
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