ENCOURAGING YOU!!!: Never Too Late To Start Over

To be honest, last week was probably not THE roughest in my marriage but it was the most enlightening one. Hubby and I had a disagreement caused by my neglect of him while thinking of my own selfish wants. The next day, mentally I finally went back to day one, when I first met Hubby. I remembered how I physically mentally and spiritually felt about him that first day, that first week, those first few months and realized that not only did I not fully feel that way toward him now (I never stopped loving him) but that desire for closeness was barely there. I thought over how I had changed over the years and realized that I used to be a much more positive person when I met Hubby. I used to be nicer, sweeter, more courteous, more pleasant to just be around. I’m still that way but in spurts. I know when to be polite in a professional setting but at home, where I feel I can be myself, I don’t watch what I say and how I say it yet I’ll get offended when I’m treated in the same manner. Hubby is not always the most positive person and with me being an emotional chameleon, I latched on to his negativity. The problem with that is that I HOLD negativity whereas eventually Hubby lets it go. Me of all people who lives by the Golden Rule wasn’t seeing that I was getting what I “asked for”. Simple common courtesy goes a long way and when I was more conscious of the fact that Hubby was still the last person I treated respectfully (when in fact he should be one of the FIRST), I immediately snapped back to the good ol’ Lea. He hasn’t mentioned it but I’m sure Hubby has noticed this past week that I’m nicer toward him, trying to help him stay calm, motivated and positive which is making him soften. He’s probably not even aware of how harsh he speaks AT me (not TO but AT me). One thing I can say is that Hubby is truly a man of his word. The least I can do is be a woman of my own word. He needs his wife 100% of the time, not just when I feel like it. I know I’ll be fine if I were single but I wouldn’t be any happier without my Husband. We’re celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary in June. Between now and then, I’ll be writing love notes for him to read on our anniversary where hopefully we’ll be in a memorable setting for him to see that I still love him just as much as he loves me.

PeaceLoveHappiness
Lm…

*I will always refer to him as “Hubby” to protect his privacy. Don’t get it twisted: he is not a boyfriend or side piece. He is my HUSBAND.

Why Do I Love YOU?

Believe it or not, I love EVERYONE.

When I love someone, it’s not because of their age, their height, the way they look, the color of their skin or even their gender. It’s because of something within them. I feel drawn toward something positive in them that is mirrored within myself. Most of my friends are similar to each other. My past lovers were similar to each other. And what was that similarity? They each had something about them that made me love them as they were. Anyone I come in contact with I try to treat them this way: as you are. I love you if you’re straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual, transgendered or whatever because you are here to be loved as you are.

I’m not telling you how to love anyone. I’m just letting you know why I love EVERYONE.

PeaceLoveHappiness
Lm…

I Do Not Celebrate The Commercialization of Christmas

As a child, I enjoyed waking up on Christmas morning to race to the tree to see what “Santa Claus” brought me. As I got older, the amount of gifts dwindled as did my spirit for the holiday. I wasn’t taught the true meaning of Christmas and therefore believed that it was all about the gifts. By my teen years, once I began working and was able to participate in the gift giving, I tried to regain my happiness for the season by giving to others but I was met by unhappiness at the fact that I didn’t “go all out” for their present. It wasn’t until I had children of my own that I had a chance to reinvent how I celebrated the holiday. Seeing the smiles on my Babies faces was all the gift that I needed as my children were satisfied with any and everything I ever gave them. After my divorce, once again I adjusted my holiday celebration to accommodate the absence of my children while they visited with their father. Since for me Christmas is all about the kids, we celebrated when they came home but as long as my children weren’t around on December 25th, it was just another day to me. Still is. I love Jesus Christ but I refuse to bust my budget to buy gifts for people in an effort to show the love I should’ve been sharing all along!

For me, Christmas is a chance to celebrate the love we have for our loved ones. My gift to you, as always, is PeaceLoveHappiness!!

Love,
Lm…